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Naked and Silent

By | Behavior Change, Mindset, Transformation Center, Uncategorized

Fit Moms For Life team spent 4 days in NYC gathering with about 100 other mission driven non-profits and organizations. This conference was led by a brilliant thought leader named Jonathan Fields. Jonathan recently did a blog post that really hit me hard. Even though he wrote it for a largely artistic and entrepreneurial audience, I think it will also be a powerful read for those of you looking to lead healthier, fitter, and happier lives. You can click here to see the actual blog post or read below for the copy and pasted version.

I will share my thoughts and then you can read below. If you resonate with this, I encourage you to check out our 6 week challenges starting weekly around North America meeting in homes, schools, gyms, and businesses.

1_FMFL_VulnerabilityWhat a powerful message! I know that this message resonated with me personally. How about you? Admitting we aren’t as fit, healthy, and happy as we want to be can be difficult, but vulnerability and openness can serve as powerful tools of self improvement. Allowing a space for this to happen within your life and sharing with others who are striving for the same experience, is the key to genuinely enhancing your life.  Our team at the Transformation Center puts much effort into fostering safe, supportive environments that allow for this kind of vulnerability in all our program offerings, but we have two special programs that provide ideal environments for “standing naked and silent”. Our Killer Kurves program, as well as our FM4L 6 Week Challenges (that meet in homes around the world.) are the most trans-formative programs we offer. Ready for some life enhancing work? Check these programs out!

If you’d like to be open and share with me, right now, I’d be honored to listen and guide you where I can. Let’s open up to vulnerability together and start creating the happier, healthier lives we all deserve! What if the only thing standing between you and what you want is you, but you have no idea it’s true?

Sampson: I’ve built something incredible, we’re working with world-class people and world-class clients. We’re the best at what we do, nobody can touch us. I’ve gotten us here and I’m steering this ship. I’m really smart, work insanely hard and yet, we’ve stalled. We’re not growing. I can’t see my own blind spots. Don’t know our next move. Can you help us? Can you help ME? Please, I’ll do anything.

Mentor: That depends. Are you open to receiving?

Sampson: I just asked for your help. Of course I am.

Mentor: Then, let’s begin.

+++ Months Pass+++

Sampson: Why isn’t anything changing? You said you’d help. But everything’s the same. I don’t understand.

Mentor: You came to me seeking help. You need it deeply. I was and still am open to giving it. You shared you were open to receiving it.

But your actions belie your words.

Your biggest blind spot is not the market, it’s not resources, ideas, or strategies. It is your own unwillingness to be vulnerable. To own the fact that, though you’ve gotten yourself here, at this moment in time, you don’t know what you’re doing or how to move forward. Until this changes, nobody can help you.

Sampson: But I asked you for help. How can you say I’m not vulnerable, open to receiving?

Mentor: What you ask for and what you’re open to are not the same.

I have shared ideas. I have brought others into your orbit far smarter and accomplished than I, willing and able to help. But every time we talk–you, me and them–you stop listening and instead talk over us, our ideas and offers of help. Instead of receiving, you posture. And it’s become so automatic, you have no idea you’re doing it.

Understand, you do not do this because you are rude. Not because you’re ignorant. Not because you’re incapable. You are, in fact, immensely bright, kind and capable.

You do this because what you are being offered is not coming from you.

You’ve been conditioned to believe, through no fault of your own, that you need to be the ONE who figures it all out. That if it doesn’t come from you, you will be perceived as weak. As unknowing. As incapable. This thought destroys you. You need others to feel you’re “on parity” with them.

So, instead of listening, learning and receiving, you talk. You posit. You rebuff. You revert to the illusion of strength and retreat to the blockade of false-confidence. You refuse to acknowledge the “new-ness” or validity of any proffer.

And, in doing so, you push all those who would line up to help you away without even realizing you’re doing it. You punish their arrival by raising your shield. Leaving them to bang their heads against an armor that protects you from the very thing you claim to seek. It’s incredibly frustrating to be asked for help, then refused a way to give it.

Sampson: So, are you saying all those people who have offered to help me over the years, but then abandoned me…that wasn’t about them, it was about me?

Mentor: I can’t speak for all people. But I can tell you, the people I gathered to help you who, most of whom have, using your words “abandoned” you, yes, they have all shared this reason.

When you first came to me, you acted on a moment of deep pain, you allowed yourself to be vulnerable and that led to a temporary openness to receiving help. Yet the moment it arrived, the fact that you needed it and the reality that accepting it would require you to own your own unknowing in the eyes of others terrified you. So you shut back down and defaulted to a show of bravado.

But maybe the most dangerous part is this. You don’t see it. You’re not even aware you’re doing it. So you keep asking for help. Wondering why nothing changes. And why people keep saying they’ll help, then walking away from you.

Asking and receiving are two very different things.

I know this dynamic so well. Because…

I have been you.

I am you.

I will be you again.

I am drawn to create. I am both burdened and gifted with ego. I am immensely human and sensitive. I struggle with my need to feel strong, to have all the answers and not be seen by others as “lesser.” I, too, have armor.

But I have also learned, very much the hard way…

There comes a time when you need to stand naked and silent in the room. 

To not just lower the shields, but keep them down. To own the value and truth of other peoples’ ideas and efforts. To not discount them simply because they’re not coming from you. To stand in a place of deep vulnerability, not as a show weakness, but of strength.

Sampson: So, I need to come clean to the world about where I am?

Mentor: No. Start with a single person, or a small group of people who are there for the right reasons. Who love you, respect you and want to help. It is often brutally painful to remain in this raw, exposed place long enough for true change to happen. Yet, sometimes…

Naked and silent is the place where your next better self takes root.

And where the thing you most want to grow begins to blossom. Or, in your case, come back to life.

So, I ask you again.

Are you open to receiving? To standing naked and silent?

If so, the real work begins.

If not. I wish you well.

-Jonathan Fields

Are You Proud of 2013?

By | Fit Moms For Life Book, Fit Moms For Life DVD, Fit Moms for Life Six Week Challenge, Killer Kurves, Transformation Center, Uncategorized

There are only 2 days left in 2013, which gives us a great opportunity to look back on the past year and give the year a rating. Chances are there were areas that were awesome, while others really sucked. Only you know how the past year has been for you. Just like myself, I challenge you to take a “life inventory” of 2013 in the following areas of your life (no particular order)…

-Health

-Wealth

-Relationships

-Career

-Spirituality

-Happiness

-Any other metric you are interested in 2013 2014

2013 2014This can be a painful process. There are areas in my life that 2013 was the best year ever and there are other areas that I wished never happened. That will probably be the case for all of us. It is up to you to decide if you want more of the same or something better.

I would encourage you to set at least 3 goals for 2014. Come up with at least one in each of the following areas:

-Physical achievement: this could be a weight loss goal, a strength or speed goal or something else.

-Relational: is there a relationship you want to deepen? Maybe a relationship you need to end? Or possibly a relationship you want to start.

-Spiritually: this can mean something difference for everyone, but tapping into the higher powers and our “soul” can help ground you and put life into perspective more.

Fit Moms For Life and the Transformation Center are offering more programs and solutions then ever before beginning in 2014. Our Killer Kurves program starts locally January 6th. Click here if you are looking to lose 40 or more pounds of weight. Limited spots are available for Killer Kurves so click here to sign up today. We have FM4L Six Week Challenges starting all over North America through our DVD, book, and journal based community programs. Click here if you want to join or learn more.

Feel free to email me dustinmaherfitness@gmail.com, and share your story with me. I have heard it all and will cast no judgement on anything. I will commit to answering you personally and providing a solution that I think is best.

My friends over at Prograde Nutrition are offering their biggest discount I can ever remember at 40% for any capsule based products including krill oil and multi vitamins. Click here to grab them up and enter “caps40” in the shopping cart.

Cheers to making 2014 your best year yet.

 

 

Transformation Center Celebration!!

By | Cardio Workouts, Transformations, Uncategorized

Even though you might not live near Madison, Wisconsin I wanted to include you in this and still invite you since you are a huge part of the success of my local programs even if you didn’t know it!

Just over one week into the new transformation center things have been really heating up!  We held our first Fit Kids Birthday Party for 18 high-energy 7-9 year olds. They had a great time and some even cried when they had to leave, and the 7 year old birthday boy already has determined he will have his next party there. The photo booth that we invested in was a huge hit.  Last night we hosted over 100 people for a Jewish hair cutting party for a 3-year-olds “first haircut.”  The guests were so impressed with the facility that we have a few more parties being booked.

Besides the parties and gatherings we have had about 130 of our “family members come for killer workouts, lots of laughs, and great bonding and community. Oh and how can we forget about all the awesome smoothies being made.  Tranformation CenterThe Fit Moms TC will fully open up the week of Oct 21st. Fit Kids programs will begin at 4:30 PM (reply to this email for details), along with our noon 30 min express workouts and mid and late afternoon bootcamps.

To celebrate this place with the community we are going to throw a party! This party will take place Friday from 6:30-10 pm, on Oct 18th. Our potluck food theme will be “Desserts and Appetizers.” Bring your favorite dish to share dancing shoes because we will have lots of music and fun lights.

Click here to RSVP

This is open to anyone, so please click here to RSVP for this free event and share it with someone you think might be interested in the TC.  I know with all the changes and additional programs being offered there can be some confusion… Especially since we haven’t finished building our new beautiful website, so reply to this email with questions and I will get back to you.

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Also don’t forget we have 4 others locations… Oregon, McFarland, Madison East, and Sun Prairie who are all receiving some more “fun” toys to play with. Click here to see the entire schedule for all 5 locations