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Who Is Taking Care Of You?

By | Behavior Change, Health, Mindset, Transformations, Uncategorized

I would like to know, or at least have you think about, who is looking out for your best interests? Who is making sure you get enough sleep? Eat the right foods? Exercise enough? Who is making sure you have some “me” time. Time that is devoted just for YOU.

It might seem noble or even unselfish to 100% of the time be pleasing everyone else, but that can last only so long before you start to breakdown, resent certain people, me-timefeel like you are a shell of your former self, become sick, gain weight, and lose the edge that you once had. The magic starts when you realize that it starts with you. That YOU have to make sure that YOU have time to relax, and do things that make you happy. These little bursts of “me time” will transfer over into all other areas of your life and those around you will greatly benefit.

It isn’t selfish to do so, it is SELF-LESS. Make it a priority.

This message is just as important for me than it is for you. The days when I just feel blah or sad for no apparent reason are the days that I haven’t had enough sleep or been a few days since I had a good sweat from exercise. Naps and workouts are the best drug I could ever take.

Moms Just Need to Have Fun-un!

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Moms, can you remember listening to Cyndi Lauper belt out the lyrics, “When the working day is done, oh, girls, they wanna have fu-un?” Time has moved on and we may no longer be “girls”, but the girl in each of us still enjoys a break and a night of fun with her “girly” friends. Fun isn’t just for kids, you know! Take a look at these ideas, gather a couple of girlfriends together then go enjoy some good ‘ol fun.

1. Watch a “chick flick”

If there’s something “girly” playing at your local cinema, by all means, hit the theater. Don’t forget to buy some Rolos and popcorn at the snack bar – and remember, tonight, you don’t have to share.

But, if nothing looks good on the big screen, don’t hesitate to make it a movie night at home. Confiscate your hubby and kids from the house or cozy up on a friend’s couch for a tear-jerker.

2. Get crafty

A night of expressing yourself artistically can be a relaxing outlet as well as a great way to hang out with the girls. Ceramics studios are a great idea for this.  You choose a pottery item to paint and when finished, the staff glaze and fire it for you, usually for a later pickup date. Many studios even offer group rates and/or special features for ladies’ nights!

Another idea is to get together for an evening of scrapbooking, eating and socializing. While the at-home version of this is great, you can also visit your local scrapbook shop. Many stores offer a huge selection of supplies as well as a workroom to use.

3. Enjoy dinner at a real restaurant.

Spend an evening at a nice restaurant with the girls. Why not try a place your hubby or kids might be hesitant to visit, like a tapas bar or sushi house?  Gather a group of friends together to enjoy a good meal and some “girly” conversation – only one rule – try NOT to talk about your kids.

4. Get cooking!

Plan a meal and then invite some girlfriends over to cook it with you, if not at your home or someone else’s, try gathering at one of the growing number of meal prep kitchens in most cities today.

5. Have a slumber party

You may not do this every month, but why not consider a weekend away with the girls? Perhaps friends from around the country meet up at a resort located somewhere in the middle? Stay up, eat great food and enjoy some uninterrupted conversation.

Getting out and about with the girls is such good fun for moms. It’s important to work that into your schedule. Making it a regular priority ensures you stick with it instead of letting life get in the way. My friends set the last Friday of every month as our “Girly Night”.

Spending time with other adults whose company you enjoy – away from the kids – can revitalize you and make you a better parent. It’s a chance to renew your self, slow down and just “be.” So check out your calendar, call a few friends, and make a moms’ night out a definite “to do” on your list. Now go have FUN!

 

 

Erin Kurt, parenting coach and author of Juggling Family Life and The Life Balance Formula teachesWorking moms a 3-step system that shows them how to discipline without yelling, spend quality time with their kids and finally achieve work/life balance.

Receive Erin’s complimentary Video Series “8 Secrets to Stress-Fr.ee Parenting” at ErinParenting.com

Mamma Mia…. can I make time for me and not feel guilty?

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Moms, let me share something with you. In order to be a great mother you MUST nourish yourself.  Once you do this, you will have the energy, enthusiasm and patience to be that great mom you truly want to be.  This may seem contradictory to what your brain is telling you – isn’t it child first, then you?  No.

You know you want it.  Deep down you remember laughing with your girlfriends in a living room that wasn’t overrun with toys or children.  You remember going for a coffee with a friend after work and chatting about life and the new lipstick you discovered.  You remember lying on your bed on a sunny afternoon and reading a romantic novel, and you remember feeling sexy and womanly. You want it, but you think that if you take time for yourself it means time away from your kids, and that would possibly make your kids feel like you don’t love them as much as you say you do.

It’s this guilt that is stopping mothers from truly living their authentic life.  Yes, giving birth is one of the most life-changing experiences in the world.  We finally know and understand what it feels like to love someone unconditionally.  We also feel a deeper connection to the world and all it encompasses because we now have a child.  However, a child should be an enhancement to our lives, not the end all and be all.

We are still Janice, or Sandra, or Beth.  That hasn’t changed.  We still love doing the same things and reading the same things and listening to the same things as we used to.  After having children, however, we tend to become so engrossed in their lives that we forget our own.  The funny part is that our children were given to us for a reason.  It is our individual likes, hobbies, and interests that brought our children to us specifically.  Our children’s lives were meant to be influenced by us in particular.

We mothers actually have a responsibility to show our children how we play, what we enjoy, and how we take care of ourselves.  Children need to know this!  Where else are our children going to learn how to love themselves?  Where else are they going to learn how to value themselves?  Where else are they going to learn how to go after their dreams?

Show your children how to live a balanced life because they won’t learn it from anyone else but you.  A balanced life brings happiness and every mother I’ve ever talked to has said she wants her child to be happy, so doesn’t it make sense to show your child how to be happy instead of just talk about it?

Close your eyes, sit alone in a quiet room, and think about all the things you used to do that you would love to do again.  Don’t limit yourself; let the thoughts flow.  Then, once you have a clear picture, write down 5-10 things that you love doing and that you want to start doing again.  Then, get a calendar and start scheduling in activities that will fulfill your wishes.

Being a fulfilled, happy person is one of the BEST and BIGGEST gifts you will ever give your child.  So, stop the guilt, stop the martyrdom – if you TRULY want to be the best mother you possibly can, then the first step is to start taking care of yourself.

Erin Kurt, parenting coach and author of Juggling Family Life and The Life Balance Formula teaches Working moms a 3-step system that shows them how to discipline without yelling, spend quality time with their kids and finally achieve work/life balance.

Receive Erin’s complimentary Video Series “8 Secrets to Stress-Fr.ee Parenting” at ErinParenting.com