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You won’t have a dry eye after you open this

By | Balance, Flexibly, Health, In the news, Lifestyle, Mindset, Strength, Uncategorized

Early this morning, after climbing my 108 floors of stairs, I received an email from a friend asking me if I had heard of an athlete named Amanda Sullivan. I had not, but I quickly investigated. After only a few minutes of reading and watching some video on her, I had tears streaming down my face.

In a moment I will share a couple links to articles and videos of her story.

I talk so much about your attitude. Your attitude will make or break the quality of your life and your success or failure at reaching your fitness goals. On occasion, I get so upset and frustrated when I am talking with a client, or prospective client, and listening to them ramble on with a million excuses why they aren’t where they want to be or where they said they were going to be. They want me to feel sorry for them. I am a very caring person with only their best interests at heart, but I cannot feel sorry for them. I have met too many people who have overcome far greater challenges in life.

Amanda Sullivan is one of those people. Her abbreviated story goes like this…

She was an athlete working as an aid worker starting an orphanage in Mexico, when she was rear-ended in the middle of an intersection by a guy on his cell phone. It tore her body up quite badly and caused head trauma. After 5 weeks, she was out of the hospital. At week 6, she was walking to her first physical therapy appointment when an 81 year old man crashed his car into her, causing such severe injuries that she spent the next three years completely in bed. She now uses crutches and sometimes a wheelchair, but still completes mud runs and 5Ks.

In one of her videos she says, “We all have excuses, I just choose to ignore them.”

Click here to check out a video NBC did on her: http://www.nbcsports.com/other-sports/amanda-sullivan-overcoming-most-treacherous-obstacles

Click here to read about her story in her own words: http://news.spartan.com//overcoming-obstacles-amanda-sullivan/

If you are on Facebook click here to like her page and watch her burpee video, AMAZING! www.Facebook.com/AmandaSullivanSmiles

I decided that I had to “meet” Amanda, so over the past 30 minutes we have had an amazing conversation. These are the types of people we need to be surrounding ourselves with. I asked her if she could tell you one thing what would it be?

Here was her response…

“Don’t let the negative committee that meets in your head control you any longer. We tell ourselves every day that we aren’t pretty enough, fast enough, fit enough, smart enough, successful enough, good enough. We would NEVER be friends with someone who tells us the very things we tell ourselves every day!!

If we can control our thoughts, we will control our actions and therefore control our destinies. Silence the negative thoughts, the self-doubt, the fear. If you have a body, regardless of how it looks, YOU ARE AN ATHLETE. The more you face your fears, the more you will chase your dreams. You will discover that you are more able, more unstoppable & more beautiful than you ever imagined possible. You will stop waiting for a hero to come and save you. You will find that hero has been with you all along, gaining strength, courage and confidence with every workout, every goal and every race completed. You will finally learn that YOU ARE ENOUGH. You will learn that you deserve all the hope, light, hugs, compassion, friendship, encouragement and love that you ALWAYS give to others.

The time has come to finally live your life 100%. The time has come to stop making excuses. The time has come to be the HERO you’ve been waiting for. THE TIME IS NOW. You’ve got this!!! You always had it (you just didn’t realize how awesome you truly are until now). “

-Amanda Sullivan

Life is too short to put up with the “vampires” in your life who tell you that you will never succeed or who sabotage you as soon as you begin to see progress. I hope you were inspired by Amanda’s story and attitude. Let’s get up off our butts and MOVE! I have worked out twice today already, but I think I will do a third because I am so fired up right now.

 

Don’t Give Up!!

By | Behavior Change, Fit Moms For Life Book, MamaTone, Uncategorized

I have seen so many people reach amazing physical accomplishments that both them and myself are shocked at. One of the programs I created and run is call MamaTone Fitness. These women are in their late 20’s to late 40’s. Every day I am inspired at how hard they work and the attitude each one brings!  Half way through their 4th set of sprints up an extremely steep hill one woman said, “Do you know how old we are?” It was true that this group of women were all over the age of 40 and I had been working with them for over 6 months. If you would ask these women how they feel, many of them would say they feel better and in far better shape than when they turned 30! One woman in her mid 40’s can do 14 pullups, another mother of 4 children can bench press her weight, a few 60 year old men can do over 10 pullups, are getting off their blood pressure medications, and feel better than they did a decade ago.

I want to point out what is possible when you believe, and work towards what you are capable of. Unfortunately, I have seen many people who let their limiting beliefs such as; I am too short, I am too old, I was never athletic, and I am just big boned, to hinder their results. These individuals will NEVER reach their potential with an attitude and belief like that. 1 Don't give up

I ask you, what is holding you back from reaching your potential? Is it fear? Is it laziness? Is it low self esteem? Whatever it is, push past it and go for what it is that you only thought was possible for “that other person”.

I don’t know where you are at today, maybe you feel like you are on top of the world with your body, finances, relationships, and confidence. If so, awesome keep doing what you are doing and look to improve.

or…

Maybe life has thrown you some curve balls and challenges recently.  I spend a lot of time reading biographies, and listening to interviews from people who have had success in various parts of their lives. The only common thing I can find in all of their stories is that they didn’t give up. When life threw them challenges and knocked them down, they got up and fought some more even though they didn’t know what would happen next. Generally those who have had the biggest successes have overcome the highest hurdles.

Sometimes it seems like we are trying every possible option to reach our goal (the cheese), but we need to keep trying and looking for new ways of doing things.

If you need someone to vent to, feel free to share your story of challenge with me via e-mail at dustinmaherfitness@gmail.com.  I’d be happy to listen and lend an eye and ear, all I ask is that you include what you are now going to do to make the situation better.

Keep Moving!!

 

Courageously Dealing With Fear

By | Behavior Change, Mindset, Uncategorized

A couple weeks back I went on a 5 day wilderness survival training adventure in the mountains with 30 of my buddies (guys).Rocky

I really had no idea what to expect, but I expected to encounter fear a couple times on the trip. Fear isn’t a bad thing. It keeps us alive, and helps us make decisions that can save our lives.

Fear can also be the silent killer that keeps people from realizing their dreams and living a life that they only fantasize about. Courage isn’t about denying that fear exists. Courage is being fully aware that the fear is there and doing it anyway. Maybe for you, courage means joining a gym, or a bootcamp. Maybe it means getting out of an abusive relationship, or having a difficult conversation with someone you love. Maybe is means reaching out for help, because inside you are empty, lonely, and sad. I deal with fear everyday and some-days I allow it to control me, and other days I use it as fuel to press towards my goals and dreams.

Below is a 3 step formula I use to push through my fears.

#1 I do the worst case scenario test… What is the worst thing that could happen. If I am ok with the worst case scenario is passes the first test.

#2 Do things in groups. This can be counterproductive if the group mentality is going to do something unsafe or against your values or goals, but when used in the right context incredibly powerful. I shared about this 6 months ago, but I was with a group similar to these guys and we were asked to jump off a bridge into ice cold water and swim back to shore. Ok, this was maybe a little more dangerous then we should have been doing, and I would have never done it had it not been for everyone else doing it. But after doing it and surviving it, I have a new found confidence. So find a support group or team that is overcoming the fears that you are dealing with.

#3 Find an expert… Whatever fear you are dealing with there is probably someone who helps people overcome that fear. You might call them a coach. We have hired a survival guide expert to take us out into the wilderness to teach us how to make fire, build shelter, catch animals etc. Having an expert will lessen the risk, and lower the fear factor and provide you with strategies to deal with the specific fears. So if you are scared of working out, or having your family eat healthy, look to work with an expert that can help you out.