How to Handle Life When Your Mom, Brother, and Sister-in-Law Unexpectedly Die

By | Health, Lifestyle, Mindset, Strength, Uncategorized

Tessa_3Today’s story is tragic in one sense, and inspiring in another.  I want to introduce you to Tessa.  Tessa is now one of my best friends, and also the manager of the Transformation Center, and far more wise and mature than most 22 year olds. This past year has been a rough one for Tessa, but her attitude has not only inspired me, but the hundreds of clients at the Transformation Center and beyond.
You are about to watch an emotional video that was filmed about 10 months ago, only weeks after her brother and sister-in-law were killed in a car accident.  A couple months after this video, her mom passed away after an incredible fight with cancer. ->-> Click here to watch video <-<-
In this video you will discover some incredible tips to help overcome the tragedies that life will throw at us. I have seen family tragedy destroy a person for long periods of time, causing them to not take care of themselves and begin a sad and awful spiral. We all handle challenges differently, but remembering to take care of yourself throughout the process is so important and will help you cope.
I am very proud of Tessa.  Since this video, she started working at the TC, and works out 2-3 times per week with us.  She has become an elite national stair climber, and has hired a Tri coach to compete in a half Ironman this summer.
If you liked this video interview, this is part of our Fit Moms for Life online program.  There is an initial 6-week program and then a 52 week program that follows. Each month you receive new workouts, eating plans, and videos just like this one, to help you get and stay in the right mindset. ->-> Click here to learn more <-<-
If you live in Madison and have gone through some personal challenges/tragedies, I want to let you know that NOW is the best time to start investing in yourself and getting back on track. Chances are you have taken the focus off yourself and put it on the situation or your family, but you need to get back to YOU.  Exercise is the greatest drug to reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. Take your dose today!

A Challenge To Live Your Most Incredible Life

By | Behavior Change, Mindset, Transformations, Uncategorized

BelieveFor those who know me better, you might have noticed a shift in what I have been talking about over the past 6-12 months. The first years as a trainer, blogger and speaker, my topics were more along the lines of “10 different ways to tone your butt,” or “5 foods that burn fat.”

Great content…

But over the past year I have shifted to less of that (although it is certainly valuable and I will continue to share), to more about challenging you to live your most incredible life, and to do things that you have wanted to do, but don’t because of fear.

This shift has occurred because I have a desire to grow, but has accelerated because of the people I now surround and associate with on a regular basis. When I travel all over North America, I am meeting with some of the greatest thought leaders in the world, who have goals and dreams that I can hardly comprehend and who have already done mind boggling things. The more time I spend with them, the more I find myself setting bigger goals, and building up my levels of confidence and abundance.

You might have noticed the following…

I use less “I” and more “We.”

I write and share about not only what I think you need, but also what I am going through as a human just like you.

The first part of my career was trying to build a name and a business for myself, to make a good living, and help people.

Since turning 30 this summer, my goal and mission is to learn what it means for me to become the leader I believe I am meant to be, and then teach others how to do the same. I have no plans on leaving the fitness and wellness industry, because I don’t know a better way to get someone to believe in themselves enough to become a leader, then by helping them lose fat, gain strength, run faster, or tone up. By changing a person’s earth suit (their body) it nearly always transfers over into their minds and hearts.

I just listened to an audio of a guy who studied the literature on “death bed conversations.”  As you can imagine “I wish I would have spent more time working at the office” never comes up as someone is dying.  The two greatest regrets according to this interview were; I wish I would have spent more time with the ones I loved and cared about the most, and I wish I would have contributed more to society instead of worrying about stupid insignificant things.  Let’s learn these lessons now and not when we are ready to die.

In conclusion, thank you for spending a few minutes of your day, many days of the week, reading my writings (with more typos and grammatical errors then I would like to see), listening to my words, and watching my videos.  I hope in some way I challenge you to become healthier, become fitter, achieve goals that you didn’t think were possible, and to look fear in the eyes and do it anyways, which is my definition of courage.

I believe the decade of my 30’s is to discover what it means to be a leader and build up the Fit Moms For Life movement on the principals of “WE” rather then “I.”

Human connections are what we are needing more today then ever before. Ned Halloway calls it the Vitamin C deficiency, in which the “C” stands for community.

That is why I urge you, to reach out, put yourself out there, be vulnerable, and surround yourself with people who are striving for health and wellness, who put a premium on relationships, and have an overall positive and abundant mindset.

The quality of your life will skyrocket.

I look forward to growing older and wiser with you.

Courageously Dealing With Fear

By | Behavior Change, Mindset, Uncategorized

A couple weeks back I went on a 5 day wilderness survival training adventure in the mountains with 30 of my buddies (guys).Rocky

I really had no idea what to expect, but I expected to encounter fear a couple times on the trip. Fear isn’t a bad thing. It keeps us alive, and helps us make decisions that can save our lives.

Fear can also be the silent killer that keeps people from realizing their dreams and living a life that they only fantasize about. Courage isn’t about denying that fear exists. Courage is being fully aware that the fear is there and doing it anyway. Maybe for you, courage means joining a gym, or a bootcamp. Maybe it means getting out of an abusive relationship, or having a difficult conversation with someone you love. Maybe is means reaching out for help, because inside you are empty, lonely, and sad. I deal with fear everyday and some-days I allow it to control me, and other days I use it as fuel to press towards my goals and dreams.

Below is a 3 step formula I use to push through my fears.

#1 I do the worst case scenario test… What is the worst thing that could happen. If I am ok with the worst case scenario is passes the first test.

#2 Do things in groups. This can be counterproductive if the group mentality is going to do something unsafe or against your values or goals, but when used in the right context incredibly powerful. I shared about this 6 months ago, but I was with a group similar to these guys and we were asked to jump off a bridge into ice cold water and swim back to shore. Ok, this was maybe a little more dangerous then we should have been doing, and I would have never done it had it not been for everyone else doing it. But after doing it and surviving it, I have a new found confidence. So find a support group or team that is overcoming the fears that you are dealing with.

#3 Find an expert… Whatever fear you are dealing with there is probably someone who helps people overcome that fear. You might call them a coach. We have hired a survival guide expert to take us out into the wilderness to teach us how to make fire, build shelter, catch animals etc. Having an expert will lessen the risk, and lower the fear factor and provide you with strategies to deal with the specific fears. So if you are scared of working out, or having your family eat healthy, look to work with an expert that can help you out.