I am writing this 21 hours after my wife Tessa gave birth to a girl, who we named Maple.
Tessa was in bed, and at 10 pm her water broke. We called her dad to come over to spend the night with our 19 month old son Bo. Once he arrived we headed off to the hospital and Maple was born at 11:30 pm, only 3.5 minutes from the time Tessa started pushing.
The experience of the first day with a new baby is so much different the second time around. There is a familiarity.
Maybe you can relate to taking home baby #1 and leaving the hospital asking yourself the question, “What am I supposed to do–they can’t possibly be just letting me take this human home and expect me to keep him/her alive?”
Everything is new, it can be uncomfortable, scary. After Bo was born, we lacked confidence in our own ability and questioned whether we were doing things the “right” way.
We wished we could have spent a few more nights in the hospital under the expert guidance of the nurses and doctors, but nope, there we were bringing a human back home.
Fast forward to today and it is so different. Changing a black tar diaper didn’t phase me, cleaning up puke twice didn’t even make my blood pressure rise, and swaddling/holding Maple felt so natural.
I have spent the past 19 months immersed in being a dad.
So how can this help you?
At the Transformation Center we mostly work with people who know they need to work out and become healthier but they are scared for one reason or another.
The fear most likely comes from the unknown and not knowing what to expect or how they are going to do.
The magic happens when someone joins DESPITE the fear, DESPITE the scary unknowns and puts his/her trust in our expert trainers, and the programs and systems that we have created.
There is no other substitute for just jumping in and doing it.
Tessa and I took dozens of hours of hands-on baby classes, read books, listened to hours of podcasts on parenting, and talked with so many friends, but until we actually brought that baby home, very little of it mattered.
We learn as we go.
Action builds consistency.
Consistency builds familiarity.
Familiarity builds confidence.
Confidence gets results and the positive feelings associated with it.
That is why those who never take that first step, who never get past the contemplation stage to taking action, are the ones who are guaranteed to fail.
Those who tell themselves: I will start tomorrow. Next week my schedule will get better. I will be more motivated next month. I am going to wait until I retire to start taking my health seriously.
These are just stories we tell ourselves that keep us away from the results in our life that we want and deserve.
The beauty of having a baby is that nobody is truly ready for that responsibility. But once we bring that baby home we have no choice. We figure it out, and it all works out.
I wish we could have Maple home already. There is a confidence that comes with familiarity and I want that for you when it comes to your health!
PS We have our next Killer Kurves and Fit over 50 sessions starting soon. Contact us if you are done putting off this area of your life and ready to take action. I look forward to hearing from you.