I had an emotionally tough day. I have been working super hard calling dozens of people each day who have expressed interest in the Transformation Center.
I speak with each person for between 10-15 minutes, get to know them a bit and find out if they might be a good candidate for one of our 4 distinct programs, then have them come in for a free session.
Well, I had three guys in one day not show up for their free sessions. I called each of them up to make sure they were ok.
Now, each of these three guys were 60 plus and not in very good shape. In other words, their current level of health was significantly hindering them from living life to its fullest, but each of these guys gave me excuses as to why they decided not to show up.
I have studied psychology for over 12 years. I understand the stages of change and all that. But these guys are telling themselves a story in their head that will keep them from fully living life, and may cause them to die earlier than they should and become dependent on others probably 5-10 years sooner then they should.
If I am going to be honest with you, I got quite angry (those who know me know this is super rare).
I am still not sure why I got so angry, like to the point I wanted to throw my phone on the ground after the third conversation.
I think I am angry that they believe the lie that their health is something on which they can continue to procrastinate.
They believe the lie that they are too far gone, that there is no hope for them.
They believe that getting fit and healthy are for “others” but not them.
They believe that 6 months, a year, 5 years from now, they will be in better circumstances to start paying attention to their health.
I told the last guy (maybe not in the best tone), “Listen, I don’t really care if you join the TC, but PLEASE do something, take action, and start today.”
I know I can’t help every person, and that I need to attract those who are at the stage of readiness to make that commitment. But it is SO hard for me to see people making choices that will destroy their life and cause hardship for those they love the most.
I suppose this is how parents feel when they see their kids making unwise choices.
I just don’t know what to say to those people in a loving way to help them get to the stage of change.
Contrast this with a conversation I had with a guy this morning. His wife has been coming to our Killer Kurve’s program for quite some time and is getting incredible results.
He came to a free session this weekend and said he knew he had let his fitness go a bit, but two minutes into the warm up it hit him how far it had slid.
Instead of making excuses (he is a very busy, successful career guy) he said he was ready and took action and signed up. He will look back on this year and be blown away by how his life has changed for the better in pretty much all areas of life.
You see, when you start to have more energy, lose weight, and have more confidence, most everything in life becomes more awesome. Plus all the endorphins you release during and after exercise are better than most OTC drugs you can take.
Thanks for listening to me ramble and be transparent about my thoughts and emotions. I try to live each day in a state of positivity but there are some days that are really tough.