There are times in life when things happen that are beyond our control. There was nothing I could have done to prevent my mom’s death, but I do have 100% control over the meaning I give it and how I handle things moving forward.
- Be bitter towards God
- Regret times in the past when I could have spent more time with her
- Dwell on the fact my mom will never see me get married or have kids
- Try to blame the doctors for missing a ticking time bomb in my mom’s brain
- Trust God will turn this tragedy into triumph
- Celebrate all the amazing times we did have together
- Be thankful my mom got to see one of her sons get married and enjoy the birth of one grandchild
- Be thankful that her legacy will live on through stories to future wife and kids
- Accept the fact that life isn’t always fair and we aren’t 100% control of things
- Treasure each day as a gift
What meaning you give to the many events, conversations, and interactions you have each day will greatly determine your happiness in life. Maybe you are riding your bike and fall and break your collar bone. You could get into a negative mindset and tell yourself things like, I am so clumsy, I always get hurt, bad things always happen to me, see I shouldn’t exercise, etc.
You could tell yourself, at least I got hurt while being active, it was just a fluke accident, looks like I get to work on my legs for a few weeks, this gives me a great opportunity to focus on my nutrition, etc.
Today, think about an event or conversation you have recently had that you have given a negative meaning towards, and change those beliefs up.