I had an exciting and sad experience.
Let me explain…
I love playing frisbee golf. It is like golf but you use special discs and throw into chain baskets. I have been playing for about 5 years and have my entire family hooked on this sport. I try to play 3-5 times each week.
A few years ago, I got my first “ACE”, a hole in one. Last week, I made #2. I couldn’t find anyone to go with so I was alone on hole #4. A 250 foot shot over about 25 foot high trees, which blocked the basket I am aiming for. The throw just scraped over the trees. It seemed like it was a good shot. Then I heard the best sound in disc golf… chains! I sprinted around to see if my disc just hit the chains and bounced out or actually landed in the basket.
It had stuck in the basket!
There was a girl at the top of the hill by the hole and she saw the whole thing. I didn’t have anyone else to celebrate with and as I am running to the basket to get my disc in excitement, I exclaimed to her, “did you see that? I made a hole in one.” In a mean and nasty tone she replied, “who really cares?” That instant, my joy turned into a little bit of sadness. I was sad there wasn’t anyone around to celebrate who appreciated the accomplishment. A few holes later, I came up to a group of guys who were playing. They asked how the round was going and I got to tell them about my ace. They were all excited for me and we had a little mini celebration. I felt a bit better. Then, when I got back to my car, I sent a voice text to my 3 disc golf buddies who usually play with me and we celebrated over text.
This got me thinking…
The power of the Transformation Center and Fit Moms for Life community. Chances are you have made some small and big “wins” toward reaching your health and fitness goals. Like me, you probably want to share that success with others. But do you have people in your life that will truly (and genuinely) appreciate the success or progress you are making?
That ace of mine wasn’t nearly as special as if all my disc golf friends would have been there to see it and celebrate it with me. Fortunately, I could still let them know after the fact. But you might not have that positive support, you lose five pounds and you are excited and tell your husband, and all he says is, “you will probably gain it back next week.”
Or… You are out with your girlfriends and you brag that you ran 1 entire mile without stopping and one of your friends says, you are going to probably hurt yourself if you keep running. Or… You kicked the nasty soda habit and your coworkers make you feel stupid for drinking water when you go out for lunch.
These comments and lack of support are toxic towards your long-term success. PLEASE find a community of like-minded people who you know have your back and will be genuinely happy when you have success, even if it is as small as passing up the drive thru on the way home from work. I am here for you. Take action and find yourself a community.