The story I want to share with you today is from a mom named, Liz. Liz is now the head trainer at the Fit Moms Transformation Center, but if you would have known her just 4-5 years ago, you would have never guessed the path she would take.
Here is Liz telling us her story in her own words…
“I was lucky enough to be a stay at home mom with my boys, but with that came a lot of isolation and loneliness. I had made some “mom” friends and our daily activity usually involved eating lunch out. It helped me get through the day to have friends that were going through the same steps of motherhood and understood how hard it was at home.
I was always running errands, many of them unnecessary just to get out of the house. Looking back I remember every minute taking forever and so slowly ticking away, waiting for my husband to get home so I would have some relief from the constant caregiving. What I wouldn’t do now to have those beautiful minutes back with those little boys.
I felt myself falling back into depression, something I battled much of my life. I was not the mom I wanted to be, the mom I pictured I would be when I envisioned motherhood. I was letting my kids down, my husband down and myself down. I just didn’t have energy for anyone. I lacked patience and understanding. I was lazy. I got frustrated easily with my kids and most of all I was just TIRED. Tired of just trying to survive and not living life, tired of not loving my life, tired of not seeing how good I had it, tired of the way things were.
One morning I got on the scale to see where I was at, thinking it would read 180. It read 203- the most I had ever weighed not pregnant.
How had I let it get so bad?!
I sat down on the bathroom floor and just started to cry.
What had I done?!
How had I done this?!
What kind of role model was I to my kids?!
Before I knew it my boys were banging on the door to get in. As all moms know the bathroom is never a personal place with small kids. I picked myself up, wiped the tears from my eyes, and pledged to do something about it. I made an appointment with my doctor to go back on anti-depressants. I started walking with a neighbor every morning. I was really starting to feel better. By the time my doctors’ appointment came around I had decided I was going to use exercise NOT use medication to make myself happy again.
Those morning walks slowly turned into morning run/walks, which turned into runs. I became addicted to what it felt like to push myself.
I joined Dustin’s Fit Moms classes figuring I might as well give it a try. What did I have to lose?!
If nothing else, it was free childcare for 45 minutes, a chance to be me not “mommy”. Oh boy did I struggle those first few weeks.! But everyone was so welcoming and friendly. I looked forward to coming and talking to others, once again not feeling alone all day. My boys were 3 and 1 at the time and it took a lot of energy to keep up with them all day but I was finding the energy to do it!
Before I knew it I was exercising at least 5 days a week and LOVING it. I loved that the Fit Moms classes were fun, interactive, and non-judgmental. More important than losing the weight, I was feeling good about myself. I was excited to wake up every morning, excited to spend the day with my kids, excited for whatever was next.
My life has been forever changed on the outside, but most importantly, inside. Through this journey I didn’t find the old me that was lost, I found this amazing new me. A me that loves exercise, that isn’t afraid to speak first or to introduce myself to others, that has self-confidence, that can look people in the eye when I speak to them, and that is capable of anything I put my mind to.
I want every mom to feel good about who she is as a woman, not just as a mom, or a wife. I want every mom to treat herself better and therefore able to treat her family better. I want every mom to realize how important it is to put yourself first.”
Dustin here again…
Thanks so much Liz for being vulnerable and sharing your story with the world. You are a true testament to what can happen when you are ready for change and put yourself in a loving community that is also going after the same goals and dreams.
If you can relate to Liz’s story and live near Madison, I would like to invite you to check out either the Killer Kurves program that she runs (next session starts this week), or the Fit Moms sessions. Or just e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org with your story and I can guide you in the best direction. If you want me to call you please leave a phone number with your message.
If you are feeling hopeless, depressed, embarrassed, anxious, or overwhelmed you really are not alone. Seeking help isn’t a moment of weakness but rather a sign of strength. Wherever you live in the world, there are people around you. Ask for help. We are in this together!