One of my clients shared an article from a woman named Erica Millard. It is beautifully written and I think conveys what makes our Transformation Center and the community that we have created so unique. We don’t judge, we encourage and accept. Same goes with our leaders that lead our community groups around the world through our Fit Moms For Life home programs.
At some level we know where you are and where you have been and meet you where you are. We all have struggled, we all aren’t perfect nor do we pretend to be (it is noon as I am writing this and all I have eaten is two bowls of rocky road ice creams 🙁 ). Before I share with you this story, I want to let you know that this upcoming week we are opening our doors to all of our fitness locations to let you come for FREE and see if you feel loved, cared about, and understood.
Thank you Erica for writing this…
“Dear New Girl at the Gym,
You stand across from me in boot camp or on the treadmill next to me or a few bikes over in spin. I have never seen you before, but here you are. I can tell by the look on your face you are embarrassed. Embarrassed that you can’t do a pushup or don’t know how to adjust your bike or that you walk on the treadmill when the girl on the other side of you runs for a full hour at the speed of a cheetah. You look around and wonder what on earth you are doing here. You glance at me and I smile, but you look away pretending you didn’t see, because that would mean I noticed you. Maybe you are discouraged. Maybe you tell yourself this was a huge mistake and you’re going to ask for your money back. Maybe you wonder if I’m judging you.
I am not.
I want you to know how proud I am of you. You see, even though it might not seem like it, none of us are judging you. Why? Because so many of us were just like you. We know what it is like. We know how hard it is, especially in the beginning. Really we do. Maybe you woke up one day weighing forty pounds more than you did five years ago. I have been there. Maybe you stepped on the scale at the doctor’s office, had the nurse cluck her tongue, and then had the doctor say something like, “Now let’s talk about your weight.” I have been there. Maybe you recently had a baby, and you wonder if there will ever be a time when you don’t have to tuck your stomach into your pants. I have been there. Maybe you get half way through the warm up in a group fitness class and wonder if you are this out of breath now, is a full hour going to kill you? I have been there. Maybe money and time are tight and the idea of spending $30-$70 a month and an hour a day on yourself feels awfully selfish. I have been there. So many of us have.
You see us running or biking or lifting weights, and may feel discouraged or that we are judging you. Please, please, PLEASE know that we are not, because so many of us have been in your same shoes. You see us for what we are now, but many of us started out just like you, on a journey to find our best selves.
Please come back. I know it is hard, but it will get better, I promise.
And then you will wake up one day and wonder when you became that person. You know that person who can jog a few miles or do a whole spin class or even do boot camp without being sore the next day. And you will be the one, standing across the room, smiling at the new girl hoping she knows how lovely and wonderful and brave she is. Hoping she knows she is worth all the work. Because you are. You are so worth it. You deserve to be your healthiest self.
Now there might come a time and a place where someone will judge you, even someone at the gym. Maybe they make rude comments or give you that look. Maybe they have never known what it feels like to struggle with their weight. Maybe they have low self-esteem. Maybe they have never eaten an entire pan of brownies by themselves (I have) or an entire bag of Halloween candy before a single trick or treater came to their door (I have). Maybe they forgot what it was like to be the new girl. Please, don’t waste your time on them. You are on a journey to be your best self, and they don’t belong on your journey. Find people and a place where you can begin where you are.
Come back. You are so worth it.”
It breaks my heart and frustrates me when I hear of people who know they need to do something, but just don’t have the confidence or belief that they can do it. All it takes is that first step. So I would ask you today, are you willing to take that first step? That might mean throwing away some of the unhealthy food in your pantry, going back to the gym that you haven’t been to in 5 months, or having a talk with a loved one about what YOU want for your life.
Check out a short video that just might make you shed a tear but more importantly help you take action. Click here to see the longer version of the video.
Start the process, it is a journey that you can’t predict how it will turn out, but I would ask you to trust the process, it might just be the best thing you have ever done for yourself.
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