I shared with you 6 characteristics of a very negative support system in your life. Click here to review this. Don’t read any further until you have looked that over. I received about two dozen VERY powerful responses to this post, helping some realize the reality they have been living in.
Today, I would like to share with you what Dan Sullivan, my coach, shared with me. What you are about to read are the 6 criteria to determining if your network/relationships are positive.
Abundance: More and more, everyone you know believes that the world is becoming more abundant in capabilities and opportunities.
Optimism: You create and invest in new possibilities because you know you will be supported by others’ optimism and abilities.
Confidence: Your growing 50-Person Future is filled with individuals who are masters at creating their own confidence.
Success: You have continually increased “cooperative competition” with individuals who are continually more successful.
Excitement: Year by year, into the future, you live in a community of creative achievers, where everything is always more exciting.
As I was typing this out, I just realized this is one of the reasons why I haven’t watched much TV (the past three years) and in particular the news. The news is fear based and spends no more then 10% of its time on any of these 6 criteria. By not putting that negative messaging into my brain, I decrease the number of negative/fear based thoughts floating around.
I can’t imagine after reading both of these lists that anyone would want to live in a world of pessimism, scarcity, and fear. The big question is how do you make that change, or how do you make the positive and abundant environment even more powerful and strong. It won’t happen overnight, because we are dealing with relationships… relationships that many times have been there your entire life. You will have to make a decision with certain individuals whether or not spending the amount of time you are spending with them is worth it. Only you can decide what is right for you.
I like to think of it like the cells in your body…
Every 7 months each cell of your body dies off and is replaced with a new one. As you become clearer on the person you want to be, you will find people in your life that need to “die off” figuratively off course. As certain people become less involved in your life you now have to opportunity to replace them with the type of people you want to become like and will support you instead of tear you down.
As this recycling occurs, you will be amazed at how much more incredible your life will become and who you are becoming. This principal of course applies to your health/fitness, but for any other part of your life as well. The goal is to have people in your life that you have for the rest of your life, so once you have this initial set of people that might need to be distanced, the hope and goal is to find those that will be there anytime for the rest of our lives.
You might be reading this and completely disagree with me, and that is ok, but I hope it at least gives you something to think about… it has certainly given me things to think about.
If health/fitness/energy/confidence are not at a level you want them to be, I would be honored to help you along the way in that journey. Whether you live in my backyard in Madison, WI or anywhere else in the world, I have programs and tools that can help you on your journey. Don’t put the pressure on yourself to do it alone, come along side a growing number of people who are looking towards a better future, and a healthier and fitter body then they have right now. Asking for help doesn’t show weakness, it shows a desire to get better and to be better and for that I applaud you. You can contact me at DustinMaherFitness@gmail.com.
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