Would You Ask Me Out?

By March 24, 2012 One Comment
I am recovering from a great evening last night.  I threw a party for about 100 Fit Fun Bootcampers, and MamaToners.  It was
so great to see new friends developing while other friendships deepening.  I awarded our 5 top winners of the 30 Days of Awesomeness
Challenge, and we had over 80 different healthy foods to try.
If you are in the Dane County area and haven’t given Bootcamps or MamaTone a try, click the links below to try them out.
Click here Bootcamps->->www.madisonbootcamps.com
Click here MamaTone->->www.dustinmaherfitness.com/mamatonefitness/

Within an hour after the party ended, I received an email from a  young woman who I had met there.  Here was her email.  I have changed her name for privacy.
“So I kind of think you are pretty cute (kinda :)). And I was wondering if you had a gf and if you want to go out sometime?” 
Here was my response back:
Jackie,“It was great to meet you the other night.  I don’t have a gf, I broke up with her 5 months ago, but right now I am enjoying being single and am not looking for a girl friend right now.  So I will respectfully decline, but I  am flattered that you find me “pretty cute.”  🙂

But I want to let you know that I am incredibly impressed by you taking the risk of rejection to ask me out. The ability to be direct and go after what you want, without worrying about being rejected is one of the most powerful skills you can have as a person and will get you very far in life.  So many people die in their graves having never gone after what they wanted because of being afraid of what other people think or how they will respond to you.

So mad respect and props to you for asking me out.  Keep up the great work in all areas of you life.”

Wayne Gretzky once said, “You miss 100% of the shots you never take.”
So I ask you, what have you avoided doing because you don’t think you are smart enough, good looking enough,  athletic enough, young enough, rich enough, cool enough, tall enough, skinny enough, or outgoing enough?
Don’t be afraid to ask, the worst that will happen is that you will be turned down, who cares.  The worst that could happen  that you don’t reach the goal you set out to achieve, who cares. The worst thing that could happen is you have to get back up and try again, who cares.
Over the past 30 days, my clients family here in Madison have seen some of greatest results in the shortest period of time.  Why? Because I created a game, that made them commit to doing
things that made them uncomfortable.  Some of those things included, posting their before pictures, measurements, and weight on Facebook, keeping a food journal for 30 days, and writing in their diary and posting it on our private Facebook group.
By doing these things that made them uncomfortable, they were able to realize that it wasn’t so bad and then started to break habits and attain things they didn’t think possible.
So what would you do, if rejection was never an issue and you didn’t care what others thought about you?
Side note:  I have been receiving many emails from those on this newsletter asking how they can be part of the private Facebook group.  Although this group is just for those who are in Bootcamps and MamaTone, my next challenge is being called “The Little Black Dress Project” which will start in early May.  I will have more details later, but if you aren’t local to the Madison area, but would like to learn more, just reply to this and let me know.  If there is enough interest, I might create the program all online for you.  🙂
Keep moving,
Dustin Maher

PS Go out of your way to smile and brighten someone’s day.  🙂