I feel very inspired to write this blog post. It has been brewing for awhile, and then a couple days ago, a woman named Julie Moore from Michigan wrote a comment after seeing Jennifer lose 100 lbs at Fit Fun Bootcamps and MamaTone. Here was her comment:
“Wow! I wish I lived closer! Sounds like a incredible program. I need some good influences and need a buddy or trainer or something to help me get this weight off. Im depressed low and just can’t seem to get a go at it. Thanks for the inspiration and your story gives me hope.”
Julie, thanks for commenting and I know how hard and lonely it can be, when you don’t think there is anyone out there that can help you and be a positive support.
This question about finding a support group pops up often so I want to address it now. I have talked many times about how I believe not having a support group will almost guarantee that you won’t succeed long term. So it is vitally important to find someone to help you in the journey. I am not talking about an expert or a trainer, although that is very helpful too. I am talking about a peer, someone who might be more fit, less fit, or about equally as fit as yourself. It doesn’t matter too much the experience level, but rather the commitment level of the person or persons. So DON’T pick people who are flakey, looking for a quick fix, and aren’t going to push you to be your best.
Before I give you some strategies for finding a good group or at least one person to team up with let me first say this. You must have a plan when it comes to your workouts, and eating. Whether you get that from this website, from another trainer, another site, another gym, or wherever else good information is being shared. Without a plan that fits your goals, and abilities, the group is going to struggle.
Ok, so we are now assuming you have an awesome eating plan and workout plan ready. How do you find others who you are going to enlist to join you?
Before I share with you mine, I posted this question a little bit ago on Facebook and got some great advice. Check it out!
So here is what I was going to recommend.
1. Use your initial contacts. These are the people that you know and see on a regular basis. You might have heard someone who is looking at starting or someone who has been very consistent for awhile. Finding someone you already know can be great, but be careful that you aren’t too comfortable with the person that you let them slack off or cancel because you are friends.
2. Similar to Zach’s response, if you go to a gym, watch the people who are around you. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they work out. This is why in college my workout partner and I would have a potential date come and workout with us and we could learn a lot about her personality and decide if she was potentially datable. Find someone who has a physique that you want, and is there taking the workouts seriously. This strategy is also good, because chances are your schedules will align pretty well since you are both working out at the same time.
3. Social media. Use things like Facebook, craigslist, or other social networks to post that you are looking for a partner or group to join.
4. Find a group that is already together. This is pretty obvious, but if you can get with a group that aligns with your values and goals, it might be a perfect fit. Make sure that the group is focuses on accomplishing something that is similar to what you want to achieve.
5. Email out to your contact list. This is similar to #1, but tap into your network at see if they or someone they know is wanting to find a group of accountability.
6. ASK, ASK, ASK… I get emails from people who seem sad or depressed because their perfect workout partner or group hasn’t showed up at their door one morning asking them if they want to join them. Although a group could fall down from heaven, chances are it won’t. Like just about anything in life, you need to be proactive and ask around. I believe if your intentions are to have an awesome local support group, and you put it out there to your friends and the community, you will get back tons of responses.
Side note: When starting out with your new group or partners, it is somewhat like dating, you need to make sure you are right for each other. If personalities don’t mesh, or one isn’t consistent and committed, kindly part ways and find someone else. You deserve to have the best!
I am currently making up a spreadsheet of clients from around the country who are looking for accountability/workout partners or groups. So if you want to be included in this, please email my support team at email@example.com with the following info. 1. Name 2. City 3. State, and 4 email. We will be releasing the list in about a week.
Also if you have any interest in starting your own Fit Moms For Life community or want to know more about it. put your name and email in the form below. I will be scheduling another phone call with everyone soon. By putting your name and email in, you aren’t committing to anything besides wanting to hear more about it.
Last note, this article assumes that finding a bootcamp or a community where there is a fitness professional is still an awesome choice, but if you want something additional to that, or aren’t able to participate in a group fitness program, I wanted this article to be for you.