Hi everyone this post is from Angie, one of Dustin’s blog contributors.
So, I’ve been thinking about the saying “happy but not satisfied”. Like Crystal, see how she climbed 2,109 steps!, I set a goal and achieved it this past weekend. I earned my next degree of blackbelt. I had tons of help along the way. Dustin’s Bootcamp classes helped me keep up with kids half my age. Before Bootcamp I would have been tired after the warm-up! I received lots of encouragement from family, friends, instructors and classmates at the test, and when it was over, I had achieved my goal. Hugs, high fives and compliments ensued. Was I proud of myself? Sure. Was I aware of every mistake I made and everything that I could have done just a little bit better? Oh yeah.
I am my own worst critic. I bet you can say the same thing. For me, self-criticism is often a positive thing. It is a natural part of the pursuit of excellence. It drives me to grow, get better at things, and avoid repeating mistakes. It also makes me crazy! On test day I could have responded to every kind word with “thank you, but…I lost my balance on that, I didn‘t do that as fast as I should have etc…”
Achieving this goal was a huge accomplishment and I didn’t want to put a damper on the day by only focusing on what I didn’t do as well as I would have liked. So, although I was aware of my mistakes, I decided to focus on and value my effort and hard work instead. Everything that led up to the test, the burpees, hill runs, suicides and push-ups at Bootcamp, the changes I made in my diet, all the time I spent outside of class working on stuff, these things mattered too. By doing this I temporarily silenced the inner critic and focused simply on being happy. This made for a pretty great day.
Here are some thoughts on ways to avoid the negatives of being your own worst critic:
- Think about what you did well first, and then what you could have done better.
- Stop with the negatives when they out number the positives.
- Don’t be so picky. Find a broader theme rather than dissecting every little thing you do.
- Give yourself a break and strive to criticize yourself in a gentler way. Ask the question “Would I give this kind of feedback to my best friend or my child?”.
Do You Find Yourself Being Your Own Worst Critic?
How Do You Balance “Happy” and “Not Satisfied”?