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Happy But Not Satisfied

By November 18, 2010 One Comment

Hi everyone this post is from Angie, one of Dustin’s blog contributors.

So, I’ve been thinking about the saying “happy but not satisfied”. Like Crystal, see how she climbed 2,109 steps!,  I set a goal and achieved it this past weekend. I earned my next degree of blackbelt. I had tons of help along the way. Dustin’s Bootcamp classes helped me keep up with kids half my age. Before Bootcamp I would have been tired after the warm-up! I received lots of encouragement from family, friends, instructors and classmates at the test, and when it was over, I had achieved my goal.  Hugs, high fives and compliments ensued. Was I proud of myself? Sure. Was I aware of every mistake I made and everything that I could have done just a little bit better? Oh yeah.

I am my own worst critic. I bet you can say the same thing. For me, self-criticism is often a positive thing. It is a natural part of the pursuit of excellence. It drives me to grow, get better at things, and avoid repeating mistakes. It also makes me crazy! On test day I could have responded to every kind word with “thank you, but…I lost my balance on that, I didn‘t do that as fast as I should have etc…”

Achieving this goal was a huge accomplishment and I didn’t want to put a damper on the day by only focusing on what I didn’t do as well as I would have liked. So, although I was aware of my mistakes, I decided to focus on and value my effort and hard work instead. Everything that led up to the test, the burpees, hill runs, suicides and push-ups at Bootcamp, the changes I made in my diet, all the time I spent outside of class working on stuff, these things mattered too. By doing this I temporarily silenced the inner critic and focused simply on being happy. This made for a pretty great day.

Here are some thoughts on ways to avoid the negatives of being your own worst critic:

  • Think about what you did well first, and then what you could have done better.
  • Stop with the negatives when they out number the positives.
  • Don’t be so picky. Find a broader theme rather than dissecting every little thing you do.
  • Give yourself a break and strive to criticize yourself in a gentler way. Ask the question “Would I give this kind of feedback to my best friend or my child?”.

Do You Find Yourself Being Your Own Worst Critic? 

How Do You Balance “Happy” and “Not Satisfied”?