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Lessons From High School Prom

By July 13, 2010 22 Comments

I look forward to hearing your responses to the question at the bottom of the post.

I want to share a story with you that happened to me sophomore year in high school, which was 10 years ago, and the valuable lessons that have helped shape me into who I am today.

It was spring time, which meant prom season. I wasn’t dating anybody, so I needed to find a girl that I would have fun with at prom. I had a list of girls I was thinking about asking, but the one that I really wanted to ask, wasn’t even on my list because I didn’t think I was good enough for her, or deserved it.

Let me back up a moment. I would describe my high school popularity as average, I was a decent athlete but not all-star, I didn’t party like many of the other guys, and I was in all the advanced college classes. So I was friends with everyone, but not close with any specific click. I had average self esteem, but very poor confidence level.

The girl I really wanted to ask was THE GIRL that every guy had their eye on. Not only was she extremely attractive, she had high morals and standards. The only problem was that she had a boyfriend a couple towns away from where we went to school. But word quickly spread in my large high school that her boyfriend didn’t want to go to prom with her and she was looking to go with someone.

I remember that day thinking, could I actually get the hottest and most popular girl to go to prom with me? “No, never I told myself.” As time went on she was not getting asked out even though just about every guy wanted desperately to do so, but nobody had the balls to do it.

I had a conversation with my parents about it and they told me something that stuck with me, “Dustin, you are a great guy and a great catch and you deserve the best. So why not ask her out.”

What, my ultra conservative parents actually encouraging me to ask her out?

This was all I need to take the massive leap of nerves and faith to ask her out.

My prom date!

That evening I wrote a long letter telling her that I wanted to ask her out and that I knew she had a boy friend and I would treat her right. I had a class with her and it was test day, and I had to wait until the end of the class to give her the letter. That was the longest test of my life! I quickly went over to her desk and said, “Hey I was wondering if you would be my date for prom, but before you respond please read this letter.”

The next hour seemed like eternity, but the end of the day came and she approached me (she was very shy) and said yes. To say I was excited would be an understatement. I decided to try to not make a big deal about it, but word spread like wildfire in the 2000 plus student high school, and I instantly became the most popular guy, even if it were just for a few weeks.

High School Basketball

I would be walking down the hall and guys would be yelling things like “Stud”  and congratulating me. Even some teachers were congratulating me for taking the chance. I even had a senior who was very popular stop me in the hall and tell me nice job.

The next week was weird because between my excitement and nervousness of prom coming up, I lost my appetite. I weigh about 200 lbs right now and back then I was still about 6’4 and only weighed about 165 lbs. That week I lost 7 lbs!

Prom went off without a hitch and we had a great time. At least I did, I hope she did as well.

Why do I share this story with you?

There were many lessons I learned from this that have helped me achieve all I have since then. I am in a great relationship now and not looking, but if I were single and interested in a girl, I would have no intimidation or anxiety in approaching her.

Here are some of the lessons I learned:

1. Most things that are great in life take risk and chance. Sure there was risk in me asking her, because she could say no and I might feel rejection.  But, I decided that the possible positive outcome was worth the risk.

2. Getting told no, isn’t really a big deal. So what if she would have said no. I wouldn’t have  had a chance to go with her if I didn’t ask her in the first place.  So I was no worse off if she said no.

3. Don’t be afraid to ask. So many times we disqualify ourselves and psyche ourselves out of doing something because we are scared.  We need to live our lives in a state of fear, I believe staying in our comfort levels have devastating consequences towards achieving our goals and dreams.

4. I deserve the best and am worthy of it, so why not go for the best. Changing my self image allowed me to see what was possible, when I saw what was possible I took the necessary actions to make it a reality.

5. Celebrate small successes. It is much easier to do something uncomfortable, if you have had small successes in the past. This made it much easier to approach other girls in the future, as well as future clients, and business partners.

So I challenge you! When it comes to your health and fitness, what have you disqualified yourself from by saying you don’t have enough time, you are too old, you are too out of shape, you don’t have the money, you will wait until later, I don’t deserve a healthier body than my family? Whatever limiting beliefs you are telling yourself, stop it now! They are lies that will keep you from getting what you want.

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Here is my question: What limiting beliefs have prevented you from attaining the health and fitness that you rightfully deserve and what belief will you now tell yourself.