What Would You Say To This Woman?

By February 10, 2010 36 Comments

One of the things I most enjoy about this blog and what I get to do is interact with total strangers whom I have never met before and try to help them out the best I can.

I get hundreds and hundreds of emails each week, some similar to the one that I am about to share with you.  I would love you to be able to help this woman out with your advice.  I will share with you her email (anonymously of course) and then show what I responded with.  I know she would greatly appreciate it!  Thanks in advance.

Dear Dustin,
“I am writing you from Toronto Canada. I was searching the web trying to find a workout plan that I could stick with, because if its too hard I know that I am going to give up. I am currently going through a separation from my husband of 22 years, and though I have been a good wife and mother I feel that because I let myself go, and gained so much weight that has been a contributor to the problem. I am in the tedious process of regaining my self worth which I have allowed to erode over the years.

In high school I was head cheerleader I was considered well built. I do not know if that would ever be possible again but I would like to try, not to regain my past but to help build my future. I want to feel good about myself again. my Mom who was my best friend died over five years ago from Heart Disease and Diabetes. She died a horrible death drowning in her own fluids. I do not want my children to watch me go out like that.

I watched a video clip on your blog, and tried to do the three exercises, and I know that I’m going to be in trouble they look easy enough, but “Oh My God!” I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to fail. It’s hard to stay focus. can you help me?”

My response:

Thank you for opening up to me! I am very sorry to hear about your separation and mothers death. It sounds like you are now very focused and ready to take the next step!

I don’t know if you have anyone in your town who would be able to keep you motivated and accountable but that is a great place to start. I would also begin to listen to positive and motivational seminars and books. I really like Tony Robbins.

My Fit Moms For Life program would be the best program for you right now… It is a step by step monthly workout DVD program… If you follow the program you should be able to get much of your cheerleader body back! For more info visit www.fitmomsforlife.com/thankyou.html

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We are here for you… You can have whatever you believe you can… It first starts with believing that you deserve it. It won’t be easy, but nothing rewarding in life is easy.



So what would you tell this woman, what advice could you give her?  Thanks!